What if you could have an extramarital affair that even your spouse would understand and forgive? What if you could cheat and present your spouse with a ‘doctor’s note’ after the shit hits the fan? And what if your actions could be readily explained in the time it takes to do a Google search?
How convenient would that be? Cheat. Get caught. And no one, not even spouse, questions it.
For the record, that is not the situation I am in. When my affair was exposed, it was fire and brimstone. My wife screamed and cursed, even hit me a few times. My children broke down in tears and vowed to disown me. Sure, I had it coming. Everyone hates a cheater, especially their families who pay the biggest price. But through it all, I couldn’t escape the feeling that my former “other woman” got off easy. Too easy. At first, I didn’t understand why. Later, the reason became crystal clear.
This person I had known, and had come to adore, had a valid excuse to cheat, if you can imagine such a thing. And it was that excuse that enabled her to instantly dismiss me from her life with cold precision. Everything I was, or thought I was, her friend, lover and kindred spirit, was immediately invalidated. Our affair meant nothing. I meant nothing, and never did, once the “excuse” was revealed.
I suppose at this point that anyone who has stumbled upon this blog would like to know this “valid excuse.”
Okay. I will tell you. But before I do, there is one thing you need to know. When I reveal her secret, you will side with her. Everyone does. She is the hero by default. Her sins will be immediately forgiven because of her secret. ”She deserves our pity,” you will insist. ”How can you blame a person like her?”
I don’t, but I do. And when I do, people who are just like her will flock here to speak out on her behalf. But I don’t care. I’m sick of those people.
And all because of what she did to me.
So what’s the reason?!
Next post. Perhaps even today. As you might imagine, I need to explain it thoroughly and accurately. Thanks for your comment.