Things You Try Not to Think About.

It’s simple, really.  The key to “moving on with your life” after an affair boils down to mind control.  The ability to not think certain thoughts (or entertain certain memories) in an effort to forget about your affair.   That’s it.  If you can accomplish that, a new, reformed life is yours!
Most days, I am only [...]

Sins of the Father.

“I can’t believe you stuck your in hand in there,” my 14 year old daughter said to me this weekend.  “That is sooooo disgusting!”
She was right.  Reaching my hand into a sink full of women’s undergarments that had been left to soak did not seem sanitary.   However, if my daughter’s teeth were to going to [...]

The Secret Remains Safe. (Two Years Later.)

I’ve been careful on this blog not to write too much about what I do for a living.  Sure, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure it out.  I’ve even mentioned it a time or two in previous posts.  But I work with people who regularly scour the web to locate information for stories.  [...]

A Spooky Story about Affairs.

This is a true story.  No fantasy shit.  What you’re about to read actually happened.  I was in my kitchen last night washing dishes like a good boy when my wife’s cell phone started to chirp.   The familiar sound of an incoming text message.  From who, I don’t know.  It was none of my business.  [...]

In Lieu of Flowers, Send Erin Andrews.

As most of you know, I’ve been struggling of late to post anything of substance on this blog.  Don’t ask me why.  Perhaps the “explorer” has finally run out of things to say.  Or perhaps it’s time I take this blog in a new erection direction.  Where…I don’t know.  Until I figure that out, I’m [...]

Reinventing Yourself (After an Affair.)

Let me tell you what I did last night.  It’s boring, but I’m really quite proud of myself.   I surprised my family with a better-than-average dinner.  By that, I mean I found an awesome recipe on the internet and fixed it!   Eating dinner at my house was like eating out.  A bold new [...]

Cleaning Up Messes.

Note to self:   If you ever decide to boff another female coworker (not that there will be a next time), don’t forget to remove incriminating evidence from your desk at work.  Stuff you’d have one helluva time explaining to your boss.
Who knew that nearly two years after my unfortunate workplace sexcapade, my desk [...]

The Secret Second Life.

“We dance round in a ring and suppose, While the secret sits in the middle and knows.” ~ Robert Frost.
I’m going to be brutally honest…again.
This mess we find ourselves in wouldn’t have happened if we’d been honest with our spouses.  Honest about everything.  EVERY-thing!  Every dark desire that creeps into your mind.   That’s how [...]

A Wise Adulterer Speaketh.

I don’t know you.  We’ve never met.  I don’t know where you live or where you work.  I don’t know if you take your coffee black, or with cream and sugar.  (One lump or two?)  If you and I were seated across from each other at the airport or the train station, we wouldn’t speak.  [...]

Blog Search Terms from Hell.

You’d think by now I’d be used to the search terms that steer people to this blog o’ mine.   Hell, I write the stuff.  It’s natural that certain key words would bring up my blog.  Still, I’m amazed by the number of people who are searching for answers to the same things I have [...]